Vinay or Vinaya?

by Vinaya HS on September 22, 2005

in General Stuff

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On umpteen occasions people have mistook my actual name “Vinaya” to be that of a girl. I often end up with e-mails addressing me as “Ms. Vinaya” or calls that begin with “Hello Madam.” When they do realize the mistake, it often ends with the question “So…what do I call you? Vinay or Vinaya?” To which I have always patiently replied, “My actual name is Vinaya. But you can call me Vinay.”

To being with, it was not like I had the choice to choose my name. My dad was a great believer in god, astrology, numerology, palmistry, and other occultic stuff. I did ask my dad one day, “Why did you name me as Vinaya, when Vinay was perfectly fine?” To which he replied that the extra ‘a’ made all the difference according to numerology. Since my dad was a very strict, no-nonsense kind of person, that was the end of our conversation.

The situation was not so bad when I was young than it is now. Sometimes it does get embarrassing!

In college, a physics lecturer while giving out the test scores said, “Oh! I thought Vinaya was a girl and so I was very liberal in my correction.” And that too in front of the whole class. I thought, “It’s not my mistake lady. Is it? Now stop embarrassing me.”

The ultimate humiliation happened one day when an astrologer asked for my name, deeply thought about it and then said “Well, you do look like you have a feminine side.” Thankfully, he did not say “parts” for “side.”

Moral of the story: Never have more letters in your name than necessary.




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Raj September 22, 2005 at 4:43 PM

:D thats funny.
People can be unintentionally cruel.
Even Lucio thought Vinaya was a girl’s name and I corrected him cos I had seen your pic here.
Even my name is Raj because of numerology.

Lucio September 23, 2005 at 9:54 AM

As raj mentioned, I made the wrong assumption too!!!

Venky September 25, 2005 at 7:29 PM

Though it is funny, at times it is embarassing. And your conclusion is partly right. I would say if the person does not believe in numerology, astrology, god your conclusion holds good. I know you dont believe in such things unlike your dad, in which case conclusion holds good. No offense meant ;-)

Cheers!!
Venky.

Vinaya HS September 26, 2005 at 1:14 PM

None taken :-)

sigrid November 17, 2005 at 8:39 AM

Hi,

you don’t know me..and vice versa and just bumped by accident into your blog

anyway..I’m a girl and ppl mistake my name for a guys name from time to time..cannot say that’s any better..

so, keep your spirits up
best,
sigrid

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